Son in the Shadows: "Navigating Life as the Black Sheep of Narcissistic Parents"

When I was briefly looking at Facebook today I saw a status which described ‘perfect man syndrome’. I then thought that this is something that I have heard other men mention growing up in a toxic environment. It is also something which I can certainly relate to myself. When you’re younger, you’re seen as perfect and infallible but only if you do what is expected of you. This is also because everything is about image to a narcissistic household

Ultimately it backfires as no one can be like this a hundred percent of the time. The goal of a man is not to be ‘perfect’. Instead, it is to be strong and mature. He should make mistakes and learn from them. In such a household, there is hardly anyone to set this example. They try anything to cover up what is really going on. So you should embrace, not sticking to this script of the ‘perfect man’. Narcissists often use this tactic. Still, it reflects their unauthentic nature. It also shows that they are stunted as a person. Hence, why they really never change or get better. Avoiding being ‘the perfect man’ helps you as a man to connect more with others.