Son in the Shadows: "Navigating Life as the Black Sheep of Narcissistic Parents"

In life there will be different types of storms. You may think overcoming being the male scapegoat means the storm is over. How wrong was I? It seems the storms keep getting bigger and bigger. It can transfer to finance, business, relationships, health and even to random unexpected situations. It is how you react and deal with those storms that pushes you through them. Sometimes you think the storm is bigger than yourself. You feel like a scapegoat. Then you realize you are much bigger and better than the role assigned to you earlier on. This means whatever storm is happening is not bigger than you. You are bigger than it. You will push through just like you did in the past.

I used to think that the storm meant there was something wrong with me and that is problem. But I do believe in taking accountability. I hold to the opinion that no matter how big or small the storm, we often played a part. This is because it reveals a weakness or an area to work on. When you take responsibility and admit your part, it prompts you to reflect. You’re probably already good at this from growing up scapegoated.

Then again a storm can be completely out of our hands which is okay as well. If you get caught up in a real storm, you don’t need to dwell on it too much. It is a random event that can happen to anyone at anytime.