Many years ago, I always assumed that time was endless. Recently, I have come to the conclusion that time is one of the biggest and most important commodities. As the old saying goes, “If you waste money, you can always earn it back. But if you waste time, then that is something you never regain.”
In the context of my acronym, it means that you’re the architect of your own life. You should not let anyone dictate or control when or how you spend it. You should be capable of saying ‘no’ to what doesn’t serve you. Say ‘yes’ to things that will help you.
I realized that it’s important to choose who I spend my time with carefully. It’s also crucial to consider how much time people can take. In my own journey of recognizing toxic family and people , I learned the importance of preserving time. Think of time as a currency. If someone, takes this away they’re effectively stealing a possession of yours. This helped me to have more respect and take care of my time.
When dealing with a family of narcissistic individuals, this is even more important. Initially, you do not realize that they are taking your time for granted. In this context, there is another meaning of ‘time’. Here it is:
T- Take Back Control– This means setting boundaries and learning to arrange self-care. This can include taking up a hobby that you have always wanted to do. It could also mean saying ‘no’ to going to a particular place. You may no longer feel that you are part of or comfortable with this place.
I-Identify Patterns– It could be that you start to recognize behaviors that are holding you back and are an obstacle. This will also involve identifying the way narcissists can manipulate time and you can break free from these patterns. It involves a high degree of self-awareness.
M-Managing your Time– You should learn to schedule time for work and leisure. To avoid having to feel a guilty obligation to do something you don’t want to. Another, way is to make the most of time by creating good experiences, and putting yourself out there.
E- Empower Yourself– Its all about celebrating small wins, remembering good memories and events having hope for the future.
Speaking of Time…
As we explore the importance of managing time effectively, I’d like to share a deeper dive into my journey and future plans. Check out my latest YouTube video. This is where I discuss what’s next for the channel and the topics we’ll be covering moving forward.
In conclusion, taking control of your time is crucial for personal growth. It is especially important when healing and dealing with narcissistic family dynamics. By applying the T.I.M.E. principles, you can empower yourself to make positive changes in your life.
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